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The Journey Within

Without self-reflection, there is no happiness. The happiness of those who do not introspect is random and unmaintainable, neither robust nor progressive. Those who do introspect can grow their good states, identify, extend and maximize them. With that awareness, they can bring joy to their community: people witness them and get curious, the anxious andContinue reading “The Journey Within”

Your New Glasses Of Gratitude

When you start putting on the lenses of gratitude — from rose coloured glasses to a magnifying glass to a microscope –, you start noticing things: maybe your eyes wandered to crises, trouble and troublemakers too much, trying to help, pacify and bring relief, and you didn’t please yourself enough with the pleasant conditions inContinue reading “Your New Glasses Of Gratitude”

Celebrate Liberation From Slipups Rather Than Failure

At times, people feel compelled to keep their failures or heart breaks or pain in place by dwelling on them, by speaking and writing about them, almost as if they are proud of having that experience under their belt. That can grow into a nasty habit. Usually, it does — if you do not workContinue reading “Celebrate Liberation From Slipups Rather Than Failure”

“This Time, It’s Going To Be Different!”

Is Different What Is Best For You, Though? It is quite common to develop attractions to people who remind you of your most frustrating caregiver as a child — especially if you were the member of the family with the potential to heal and who knew how to love (who did not need to learn how toContinue reading ““This Time, It’s Going To Be Different!””

The Nutrients Of Life

It is interesting to realize that many of the things that we fancied (in other words, that I once fancied, too) are not exactly unattainable and that after getting access to them, they are not overly fulfilling, that we idolized them because of ignorance and glamour and not because they had value to us, andContinue reading “The Nutrients Of Life”

The Actual Pandemic

I don’t know how many of you checked the numbers of deaths in the last two years. In British Columbia and in California, the North American West, deaths from overdoses have been much higher than deaths from covid infections. I bet that most of the world has similar statistics. There has been a lot ofContinue reading “The Actual Pandemic”

Family Culture And Its Long Ramifications

A lot of people forget, or don’t dare to look into it deeply enough, that extremism of whatever form can be traced back to childhood, namely the experiences of abuse and neglect in childhood. The neglected and abused young person will go to a source of love when and in whatever way it offers itself.Continue reading “Family Culture And Its Long Ramifications”

Untriggered

The untriggered state of being is the place of inner power and high creativity. You can claim it by eliminating what you don’t really love and resonate with — which is a lot that you pay attention to during the day. Start eliminating in the humblest ways: instead of getting your mind involved in somethingContinue reading “Untriggered”

Gifting Season

The more you withhold nurturing your loved ones, the easier you fall prey to advertising. The less nurturing you receive from those you choose to hang out with, the easier you fall prey to advertising (i.e., empty words). The latter phenomenon is rampant in women; the former in men. I won’t go into the discussionContinue reading “Gifting Season”

The Magnetic Force – And Where It Is Moving You

May the love you feel within you draw you to your purpose – every single day. May it balance all the relationships you are growing and weed out situations that are no longer viable. Open your mind to all your attractions, even the unconscious ones. Can you detect a common ground in them? A patternContinue reading “The Magnetic Force – And Where It Is Moving You”

Be the Music In the Noise

You can’t wipe out ugliness with a little less ugliness, since you are still competing with it. Living out of a reactionary spirit pleases only those who push your buttons. They love it when they get the desired reaction — that is how they win their games that noone else is meant to win. It is youContinue reading “Be the Music In the Noise”

Answer to “How Narcissists Play Games to Seduce and Abandon You”, by Darlene Lancer

Darlene Lancer wrote a great article in 2019 on Medium. I recommend it. https://medium.com/narcissism-and-abusive-relationships/how-narcissists-play-games-to-seduce-and-abandon-you-63e115309552 I replied in two parts on Medium and want to add it to this page, because I am seeing intense interest in my darker writings, especially in regards to how we can approach, cope with, and recognize narcissists or other character-disorderedContinue reading “Answer to “How Narcissists Play Games to Seduce and Abandon You”, by Darlene Lancer”

Full Self-Acceptance vs. Perpetual Transformation

Constant transformation can be an addiction too. About eight years ago, I had the hunch that self-hate and the resistance to accept themselves is what turned people, and a whole culture (North America and the new age community, for example), into transformation junkies. It is great to change for the better, to upgrade your style,Continue reading “Full Self-Acceptance vs. Perpetual Transformation”

Release Them to Their Journeys

– To the Underappreciated – Those who seek triggers for their growth can not recognize the solid, nurturing people in their life. Those who seek the knife overlook the soothing. Like those who are addicted to chaos can not perceive the enlightened, those who are addicted to strife can not perceive the loving. If theyContinue reading “Release Them to Their Journeys”

Because We Have to Evolve

Unfortunately, culture is not accustomed to nonalcoholic or postalcoholic philosophies and arts and very ungenerous to the brilliance of nonalcoholic thinkers and artists. That will change in the future. NJ 23 June 2019