Answer to “How Narcissists Play Games to Seduce and Abandon You”, by Darlene Lancer

Darlene Lancer wrote a great article in 2019 on Medium. I recommend it. https://medium.com/narcissism-and-abusive-relationships/how-narcissists-play-games-to-seduce-and-abandon-you-63e115309552 I replied in two parts on Medium and want to add it to this page, because I am seeing intense interest in my darker writings, especially in regards to how we can approach, cope with, and recognize narcissists or other character-disorderedContinue reading “Answer to “How Narcissists Play Games to Seduce and Abandon You”, by Darlene Lancer”

Growing Plants, Growing People (In a Harsh Climate)

You expose tender seedlings to the outdoors gradually. That is what makes them strong, beautiful, useful plants that offer healthy fruit and delight you for a long time. Plants thrive on sun and water. They don’t thrive when it is cold, frozen and windy. Children and adolescents are a bit like young plants: they needContinue reading “Growing Plants, Growing People (In a Harsh Climate)”

Your Life Is Dear. So Is Your Love.

Even if you despise platitudes, you might have experienced what the other person is describing. You just don’t agree with the conclusion or the way it is said. Know when it is important to establish rapport and know when you are tolerating too much. When you get a sick feeling about the way a personContinue reading “Your Life Is Dear. So Is Your Love.”