“This Time, It’s Going To Be Different!”

Is Different What Is Best For You, Though? It is quite common to develop attractions to people who remind you of your most frustrating caregiver as a child — especially if you were the member of the family with the potential to heal and who knew how to love (who did not need to learn how toContinue reading ““This Time, It’s Going To Be Different!””

The Nutrients Of Life

It is interesting to realize that many of the things that we fancied (in other words, that I once fancied, too) are not exactly unattainable and that after getting access to them, they are not overly fulfilling, that we idolized them because of ignorance and glamour and not because they had value to us, andContinue reading “The Nutrients Of Life”


The untriggered state of being is the place of inner power and high creativity. You can claim it by eliminating what you don’t really love and resonate with — which is a lot that you pay attention to during the day. Start eliminating in the humblest ways: instead of getting your mind involved in somethingContinue reading “Untriggered”

Giver Of New Shoes

The person who has walked on eggshells too long will appreciate a great pair of walking shoes. If you are the one to provide them, you will vex the other who lived off the fear. But be clear on it: the beneficiary of fear doesn’t impress you at all. You are giving your gift toContinue reading “Giver Of New Shoes”

Human Evolution

I am afraid to state that most men mature only when they are being denied love, that only the pain over the pain they have caused, or the pain of having been thrown into a situation they have to navigate on their own – for a substantial time – will make them into adults. WomenContinue reading “Human Evolution”

Freedom: Luscious in Art and When Embodied

Great art — be it music, poetry, literature, sculpture, painting or film — changes the way we move in the world. Its effects are first felt in the body, and then in the mind — as liberation, as expansion into a wider, untapped reality, connection and empathy, as the freedom to think in ways forContinue reading “Freedom: Luscious in Art and When Embodied”

When the Familiar Is Not a Good Thing

Most losses teach us how good we had it and how much we took for granted. Some losses, however – curiously, the most significant ones – teach us how bad we had it and that it is fine to open to new experiences that do not remind us of the past. It may take aContinue reading “When the Familiar Is Not a Good Thing”

Full Self-Acceptance vs. Perpetual Transformation

Constant transformation can be an addiction too. About eight years ago, I had the hunch that self-hate and the resistance to accept themselves is what turned people, and a whole culture (North America and the new age community, for example), into transformation junkies. It is great to change for the better, to upgrade your style,Continue reading “Full Self-Acceptance vs. Perpetual Transformation”