Do you take advice from a person who has never gone the extra mile for anyone else, who under no circumstance would do anything for another person, who keeps selling the attitude as something to be proud of? Well, why would you? … That pride is so phony that it needs all the packaging itContinue reading “Influenced By Whom?”
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Sleep for Mindfulness
The greatest folly is to make decisions while deprived of sleep and expect that these decisions will be clear, wise or firm. NJ,21 July 2015
What’s Up With the Wish to Please the Unpleasable?
A person who is easy to delight will find light everywhere. A person who can not be delighted will find no light even among the enlightened. It is not a matter of mood and mentality alone, or of personal choice; a person might get immense reward for being disagreeable. And why should they change? ItContinue reading “What’s Up With the Wish to Please the Unpleasable?”
Answer to “How Narcissists Play Games to Seduce and Abandon You”, by Darlene Lancer
Darlene Lancer wrote a great article in 2019 on Medium. I recommend it. https://medium.com/narcissism-and-abusive-relationships/how-narcissists-play-games-to-seduce-and-abandon-you-63e115309552 I replied in two parts on Medium and want to add it to this page, because I am seeing intense interest in my darker writings, especially in regards to how we can approach, cope with, and recognize narcissists or other character-disorderedContinue reading “Answer to “How Narcissists Play Games to Seduce and Abandon You”, by Darlene Lancer”
Separating the Wheat from the Chaff
Nothing upsets an ill-willed person more than noticing how well-treated and respected you are. Closely following that is your praise of good people in your life and of the good people you admire. Know that they are fuming, even when they don’t show it. The opposite applies too: those who are good-willed and have yourContinue reading “Separating the Wheat from the Chaff”
Sons On Gaia
Because old men want to send young men to fight their wars, they are not teaching them how to be providers, family men, responsible, desirable mates, but the complete opposite of that. They allow every aberration, every weakness. They teach young men how to best blame women for all their problems (so the spotlight turnsContinue reading “Sons On Gaia”
The Sociopathy of the Advantaged Versus the Struggling
The mind games of the advantaged could go unnoticed for so long, because they do not care about those who get hurt. All they care about is “normalizing” who they are, spreading their message, succeeding at making themselves appear a norm, or even desirable… And, if that fails, they still have their satisfaction about comingContinue reading “The Sociopathy of the Advantaged Versus the Struggling”
Don’t Shoot the Messenger. Just Examine Him.
If you want to keep your mind serving you and stay free of interference by people who have their own agendas, their own flaws, their own destinations, their own demands on you… And if you want to arrive at an objective conclusion about what the facts are and what needs to be done and whatContinue reading “Don’t Shoot the Messenger. Just Examine Him.”
Slow Down
Slow down when you don’t know your next step. Slow down your thinking, slow down all activities that aren’t really necessary. When you feel ambivalent, not guided, not inspired, or clueless about what is next, you don’t need to plunge forward. Accept that you don’t have all the information yet, that you can pause. AContinue reading “Slow Down”
Unrequited Love
Unrequited love is the worst drug ever. Highly addictive and very destructive. No one will warn you about it — unless they lived through it and have compassion for you. Unlike other addictions, it will take long to accept that you are addicted to loving those who can not reciprocate. If you do it twice,Continue reading “Unrequited Love”
Revelation, In Passing
A person of genuine confidence knows that people are drawn to kindness, fairness and love. That no force, no power game, no manipulation is needed to get the respect, the attention, the joyful recognition of others: for being treated well feels good and continues to feel good. Though we have been sold a lot ofContinue reading “Revelation, In Passing”
Silence – Because They Are Thinking – Right On
It is not always a sign of disapproval when an audience goes silent. At times there is no response because you stunned them so much that no one knows what to say. And you have given them food for thought they haven’t tasted yet. So on occasion silence is your biggest compliment: that indeed youContinue reading “Silence – Because They Are Thinking – Right On”
Easy World
In an easy worldyou are impressed by impressive peopledrawn to loving peoplehonoured by people who recognize youadored by people who wish you well In a difficult worldyou are impressed by potential that may or may not fruitdrawn to unavailable peoplehonoured by people who see economic or sexual value to youadored by people who don’t careContinue reading “Easy World”
Soul Family Behind Us
We are the extensions of our ancestors, their hopes and dreams. Imagine how much they wanted you to feel at home in this world and become family with people whose ancestors they never knew. Perhaps they were unaware, but by welcoming you here they believed that this world is a worthwhile place, a place whereContinue reading “Soul Family Behind Us”
Full Moon in July
The full moon in July is a full moon in the sign of Capricorn. Capricorn is the sign of authority. So this full moon you can celebrate all your lasting and rewarding decisions, when you acted like a boss. A boss (the Capricorn energy) knows when to surrender to wisdom, who the dependable and smartContinue reading “Full Moon in July”
Choose the Best, Then Use Your Best
While manifesting, hold the sensation of what you are trying to experience: the end product of your manifestation or the feeling you are trying to reach with your manifestation. Nothing far-flung is required of you in order to manifest a specific outcome — a situation, a result, an effect –. Only three things: time, attention,Continue reading “Choose the Best, Then Use Your Best”
From Appreciation to Mastery
Eating does not make you a cook.Participating in a workshop does not make you an expert.Reading does not make you a writer. And yet, you have to receive before you master anything and then apply what you have learned in the way you are capable of. The more you practice, the better you get atContinue reading “From Appreciation to Mastery”
The How — Bring It On
The best advice comes not from the person who knows the ins and outs of a situation, but from the person who knows the solution. If you have a solution, bring it on. The solution for one issue solves many others. Have you noticed? Your most constructive friend knows your next best step. And theContinue reading “The How — Bring It On”
What can you do to bring more happiness to your family?
Do that! You will not only stay out of trouble by making harmony and ease in the home your priority. Toxic people will stay away from you – because they don’t know what to do with someone so constructive – and their bullshit will not reach you at all. The benefits from that decision willContinue reading “What can you do to bring more happiness to your family?”
Extremist ideologies can not survive in the climate of love.
When your life is full of love, you draw boundaries almost by instinct. Everything that isn’t love, healthy, and doesn’t feel right stays out. You don’t have to think so hard to maintain that attitude. But for those whose lives are not about love, those who have never experienced love, those who fall for anyContinue reading “Extremist ideologies can not survive in the climate of love.”
Nanda Jurela 