Go to the Root

When you stabilize your life, mood, finances, you will talk about other topics than about the long list of issues that make you angry, the apologies about why you can’t enjoy your calm and historically remarkable liberties and safety, and you will be less interested in portraying yourself as unworthy or a castaway. Perspective comesContinue reading “Go to the Root”

Cut Your Losses, Be Present to the Good

A few weeks ago, I listened to a podcast with people who have had near-death experiences. All returned to life with a new perspective about what life is about and that the limits to our lifetime are a call to focus on what is important. One of the speakers made an impression on me byContinue reading “Cut Your Losses, Be Present to the Good”

The Zone of Lovely

Whether something comes to us freely or with a lot of effort is quite irrelevant. What counts is the feeling that it elicits. When we like it, we take care of it. Ambivalence or outright dislike can not draw out responsibility and loving behaviour — not in the long run. What we truly care aboutContinue reading “The Zone of Lovely”


In the very long history of humanity, there were always people of extraordinary integrity, wisdom, knowledge, intuition and heart. They lived regardless of who the authorities of their era and region were and regardless of who the scribes (“media”) found fashionable and newsworthy. Maybe some of them were your ancestors. Do you think that suchContinue reading “Coherence”

The Art of the Shrug

I admire women who have perfected the art of the shrug. It is the right response to so many things (I won’t list them; I am leaving that to your imagination), nonverbally powerful: neither fighting the information coming your way, nor faking fascination. I only observe it in people who are real and want toContinue reading “The Art of the Shrug”