Author Archives: nandajurela

When a Writer Falls in Love With You, You Can Never Die

It has been said before that if you ignite a writer’s love, you will live forever. Now imagine if you make it into the heart of a poet whose topic is love or into the heart of a composer who writes about love — and that love rises from enthusiasm, not from need or boredomContinue reading “When a Writer Falls in Love With You, You Can Never Die”

The Beauty of a Person Is In His / Her Loving Kindness

All other assets are extras with a life span. A rotten core can hide behind a popular body, a great intellect, social graces, socially rewarded behaviours, wealth, fabulous advertising, and other veneer. It can’t make a person beautiful. You can hear that at funerals where the mourning struggle to express what was good about theContinue reading “The Beauty of a Person Is In His / Her Loving Kindness”

This is what practice is for:

That we can say in our own words what the wise have said.That we talk through our lives what the great ones have talked about.That we release all attachments to wrongdoing.That we bond deeper with right action, right livelihood.That we grow the courage to be the people we want to be.That we refresh and renewContinue reading “This is what practice is for:”

What To Take Seriously.

Music.Not opinions. You never regret the former, and almost always regret the latter. … Here is the brief explanation for it: In order to catch our attention, music has to be beautiful and offer a harmony that improves our well-being. People opinion’s don’t have to pass a beauty test. On the contrary, the more theyContinue reading “What To Take Seriously.”

It’s Not Them, Hey!

People are proud of who they are. If you want to help them, acknowledge them in their strengths. You know what, maybe they don’t need help at all. Maybe they love who they are. If you approach people with the intent to “raise their consciousness”, “give them love” or “advice”, ask yourself if the personContinue reading “It’s Not Them, Hey!”

The Art of the Shrug

I admire women who have perfected the art of the shrug. It is the right response to so many things (I won’t list them; I am leaving that to your imagination), nonverbally powerful: neither fighting the information coming your way, nor faking fascination. I only observe it in people who are real and want toContinue reading “The Art of the Shrug”

The Free One (Ode to Frenemies)

Sometimes they despise you because you are not as depressed as they are. Sometimes they despise you because you are the love they want to be. Sometimes they despise you because you have the vision they wish they had. Sometimes they despise you because you embody what they had hoped for. They just expected itContinue reading “The Free One (Ode to Frenemies)”

What’s Up With the Wish to Please the Unpleasable?

A person who is easy to delight will find light everywhere. A person who can not be delighted will find no light even among the enlightened. It is not a matter of mood and mentality alone, or of personal choice; a person might get immense reward for being disagreeable. And why should they change? ItContinue reading “What’s Up With the Wish to Please the Unpleasable?”

Answer to “How Narcissists Play Games to Seduce and Abandon You”, by Darlene Lancer

Darlene Lancer wrote a great article in 2019 on Medium. I recommend it. https://medium.com/narcissism-and-abusive-relationships/how-narcissists-play-games-to-seduce-and-abandon-you-63e115309552 I replied in two parts on Medium and want to add it to this page, because I am seeing intense interest in my darker writings, especially in regards to how we can approach, cope with, and recognize narcissists or other character-disorderedContinue reading “Answer to “How Narcissists Play Games to Seduce and Abandon You”, by Darlene Lancer”

Separating the Wheat from the Chaff

Nothing upsets an ill-willed person more than noticing how well-treated and respected you are. Closely following that is your praise of good people in your life and of the good people you admire. Know that they are fuming, even when they don’t show it. The opposite applies too: those who are good-willed and have yourContinue reading “Separating the Wheat from the Chaff”

Sons On Gaia

Because old men want to send young men to fight their wars, they are not teaching them how to be providers, family men, responsible, desirable mates, but the complete opposite of that. They allow every aberration, every weakness. They teach young men how to best blame women for all their problems (so the spotlight turnsContinue reading “Sons On Gaia”

The Sociopathy of the Advantaged Versus the Struggling

The mind games of the advantaged could go unnoticed for so long, because they do not care about those who get hurt. All they care about is “normalizing” who they are, spreading their message, succeeding at making themselves appear a norm, or even desirable… And, if that fails, they still have their satisfaction about comingContinue reading “The Sociopathy of the Advantaged Versus the Struggling”