Sanity is a great good. Sanity is very underrated too.
Given the choice between “being swept away” and sanity, choose sanity. Because good love only finds you when you are sane.
While in an imbalanced state, the affair that will find you might soothe you, or appear to be what you want, even distract you from your deepest need to be loved. But that dalliance will never turn out to be true caring. Why? Because it resonates with the dysfunctional part in you. It does not resonate to your sane self.
I know you will say that you have no choice in love, that love is bigger than a person, given by a greater pattern than our man-made reality. That might be so. But you always have a choice.
Put sanity first.
Even in sexual relationships. Especially in sexual relationships. A really good love will find you then. Because a really good love is on the same wave length as the sane you.
11 December 2014