It is not only “boss” to draw the best out of every situation and bring your mind to acknowledge what is good about where you are now and what you want to remember in the future, it also activates a new way of looking at life that is fun and very sane. You will notice after a few years that you have trained your mind to select information that helps you.
It helps you evolve when you must take the next step. It helps you to stay calm when emotions are running high. It helps you to listen to your heart when you find a lot of conflicting information. It helps you determine the most valuable knowledge to you. It helps you heal: you are letting the old skin heal while engaging with something positive, constructive and joyous – the memory you want to keep.
For example, you might be traveling to a difficult conversation, and the encounter turns out even more difficult than you expected. On the way back, you come across something that calms you, or you witness a charming and heart-warming event.
Go deeper into these benign, wholesome, strengthening experiences by writing about them, photographing them, keeping a record of them. Expand the time you linger in them.
It sounds like a very easy thing to do. It is. You only have to do it.
I developed the approach intuitively, in circumstances when I had to. I later came across the research of Rick Hanson. ( https://www.rickhanson.net/ ) It encouraged me to refine it and explore it more methodically. Rick Hanson is a gift to humanity.
1 August 2020