The Gold of Love and the Brass of Self-Assertion

The phrase “I love you” is often used for reasons of seduction, self-centredness (“I love myself .. when you are around”), therapeutically (“I am feeling awkward and don’t know what else to say”). Maybe that is fine? It just does not mean what it says: “I love you. I care about YOU.”

The person who loves you does not need to say so. You feel it.

True love makes many attempts to heal the situation and the inner reality of the involved and develops.

Declared love does not do that. It can’t, because it is only concerned with the self in the moment.

Self-assertion has its place. But it is a poor substitute for love.

Genuine love repairs the self and includes another.

NJ

1 July 2014

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